How to Tell When One Is Not Telling The Truth

By Purply Pink Roxy Black

How Do You Become a Lie Detector?
I came across a very interesting article that I thought I should share. It was about how one can tell when somebody is not saying the truth.

In my culture, we have a different way of interpreting things. For example, we are taught from infant that you do not look straight in the eyes, because it is a sign of "disrespect." I am sure most of you from my world, would agree that , it is imperative to follow those norms.

Well, in other parts of the world, looking somewhere else, or rocking your eyes, when answering a question, is a sign that you are not saying the truth.

This happens a lot when people go for Job interviews. I have heard a lot of complaints,from people who go for many interviews and yet, do not get the job.

Here is what experts are saying,

"It's easier than you think to become a human lie detector. "

Look for Suspicious Behaviors
By themselves, each of these behaviors can just be signs of stress, or even a person's natural mannerisms. One can occur by chance, but when two or more of these behaviors suddenly appear at a moment when lying could be expedient, you should be skeptical. For example, when you ask a salesman how reliable that used car is, it suggests he's lying.
Here's the top eight list of suspicious behaviors:
1. A change in the voice's pitch.
2. A change in the rate of speech.
3. A sudden increase in the number of "ums" and "ahs."
4. A change in eye contact. Normally, one makes eye contact one-quarter to one-half of the time. 5. If suddenly, at the convenient moment to lie, he's staring at you or looking away, beware.
6. Turning his body away from you, even if just slightly.
7. Suddenly being able to see the white on the top and bottom of a person's eyes, not just the sides.
8. A hand reaching, even if momentarily, to cover part of the face, especially the mouth.
Nervous movement of feet or legs.

Of course, in order to notice a change, you need a baseline. So you must first watch the person when talking about innocuous issues.
A Mixed Signal
Also look for mixed signals. When someone's telling the truth, her words, her face and her body language are all congruent. For example, if a person is honestly saying that she likes you, her face is usually relaxed, offering a gentle smile and warm eyes. Her body is calm and open. But when she's lying, something is usually inconsistent. In the most obvious case, she may be saying she likes you, but she's not smiling. She may even have a clenched fist. Better liars can muster a smile, but it doesn't look natural. Even better liars can put on a convincing smile, but their eyes aren't smiling. Still better liars can control their entire face, but their bodies seem closed or cold. Look for mismatches between words and body language.
When you've gotten a signal -- a change in body language or a mixed signal that the person may be lying -- ask for more information about the same topic. Are those same lying signs apparent? That can confirm your suspicion.
Of course, there's no foolproof way to detect lying. Some people are terrific at covering themselves up, especially if they are naturally emotionally flat or have practiced their lying skills over many years -- certain political leaders come to mind. But if you look for behavior changes and mixed signals at lying-expedient moments, you will improve your BS detector."

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I am sure most of you agree on the above. But also it depends on part of the world you are in. If you live in the western world, the above applies. If you live in a world like mine, all above is opposite.

Yesterday's Work Out

Yesterday i got my ass kicked. Every part of my body is sore , and thinking to myself, what a nice day it is today. ha ha ha. The Guy that I train with is black belt in judo, black belt in Tae-kwando, brown belt in karate. That is the guy who is giving me more training.
Hey believe me, it actually feels great. Right now I am enjoying the pain.
All friends think I am tough, but hey, I am still learning new tactics.

Sorry guys, I do not mean to scare you from exercises. My point is you can take exercises and enjoy. The real deal is, you have to know that, you are building endurance to pain.

Tae Kwondo is like any other work out, except is a bit physical. Hey all I can tell you is, I enjoy it, and thank God I have my sister to give me massages, at times when my body get so bitten up. I love it.

TAE- KWONDO Graduation Blue to Black Belt

Pauline Aka Roxy Black. Yeah!!!!!! I am now a black belt and can coach. I am training kids for now. It is owesome. I am looking forward to working with adults too. I do not regret this moment.!!!!!!!

Pauline: Aka-Purple Pink Roxy Black

Iam asked by many people why I am the way I am. I will give you the answer. Check out my mom. And yes this was last year. She rans Marathons. This was a More Marathon for women over 40.

So you moms that feel you are old and can not work out, check out my mom. She is open to all. Contact her. She will walk you through the process of developing your self-esteem and get motivated . Do not let go yourself. By the way Mom is 46 years old and still running. Oh yeah no more excuses for looking old and letting go yourselves. Do something.

Purple Pink Roxy Black, loves what she does, I am a better person when I work out.

I encourage you to join me. Especially you girls. You need to learn how to defend yourselves in some instances. If you are in an abusive relationship, or you have been a victim of abuse. Tae- Kwondo is a very good work out for you.

My coaches are awesome!!!!! My best days are when I go home feeling so relaxed after a hard work out.

Come and join our team.

The Team!!!!!! of self esteemed men and women

Meet my friends

Posted by: Pauline : Purple Pink ROXY Black

These are my friends. I treasurer each one of them. There is nothing more valuable in this world than friends. Friends know things that even my family has no clue. We share, we laugh and keep each other company. That is the best thing of having friends.

I have many friends that I would like to introduce you to. The four in the picture are some of them. but I have more that I would like to introduce to you. Hang in there.

M E E T M Y Mother

This is my mom. She is a diva like myself. She has an MBA in Accounting and Finance. She works for Seton Hall University as a Technology Budget Manager in United States.

Yes , She is also a Marathon runner and a dedicated Rotarian, where she serves as a club treasurer. My mom has participated in a lot of community services, like helping the under privileged. Education is her big thing. She mentors all of us and try to bring out the best side of each one of us.

She is highly talented. She does Interior designing. She is good at painting walls too, and remodelling.

She can make anything from nothing. She likes to garden, lucky her with her green thumb, she can make her own clothes, and do her own hair. Anything she touches looks great. She is the best cook too. She not only an Accountant but coaches, yoga, and how to run a marathon. She plays basket ball like her son.

So I take part of my talents from my diva super mom.

She is my inspiration. Thank God she created R O X Y PurplePinkB L A C K in me.

More About Me

It is easy to understand me. Keep reading, you will know a little bit about me. I am not afraid of trying out new things. I like taking challenges, and I am not a quitter. The good part of me is, I have a strong will for success. That is what makes me Roxy Black . Hey do not get me wrong, I have a feminine side, and that's is why I am Purple Pink.

My wild days. I dress up this way. Hey I am a free cat. Who cares!!!! I am comfortable with my body. It makes me feel sexy and feminine.

Below looking innocent at the workshop attending to my customers that come looking for spare parts. Come on give me some cheers!!!! am I not an interesting chick?

Here in pink ready to fix car. Ask me the price and names of any car spares, I have the entire dictionary in my head. I take that from my dad. He is very mechanically smart, and very accomplished with his motor trade business.

I am a poser. I can sell a car that easily by showing it off.

My happy moments Purple Pink Roxy Black , is fun and creative. My DREAM ......To Coach and Design clothes with my own Label in the fashion industry.

Meet My Siblings

My Sisters From the right is Chocolate,Ntili,Candy,and Roxy Black

Purple Pink Roxy Black standing from the right in orange and two big sisters pumpkin and Chomolia

My Brother Kwimbi and Ntili Mills.My BrotherKwimbi has some engineering brains. He is good with the sciences only he can not make a break through, because of road blocks, but Hey he is a basket Ball player and has his own team. Ntili Mills too has some science brains. She is good with her Maths, Physics,Biology and chemistry, only she has been denied a chance to Pursue her dream. Now she is ending up in a business school. I know life is unfair, but hey, We are survivors.

We will make it to our destiny, one way or another, God will give us a break through.

I have 6 sisters and four brothers. 10 of us and agony is I am the first born. We love each other and are very united. Thanks to our parents who brought us on this crazy earth.